PARENTING
What you do depends on what you see. By understanding the meaning behind your child or teen’s behaviour, misbehaviour can be reframed as stressed-behaviour and parents can shift from:
· Reacting to short-term problems to
· Responding to long-term needs
From reactivity to receptivity, parents learn strategies to be present and respond to the emotional and developmental needs of their child or teen. Meaningful change begins to happen with practical tools to understand and manage behaviour—a real shift in the trajectory of your relationship. Healthier connections take shape and brains can be rewired to develop more secure attachment. In cases where there is separation or divorce, parents can learn to respectfully co-parent to raise resilient and self-regulated children who will thrive.
"Our ability to cognitively make good decisions as parents in the present can be hijacked by emotional memories from our past... The best predictor of a child is not what happened to the parent when they were a child, but how the parent made sense of what happened to them as a child."
Dan Siegel
PODCASTS
Here are some short digestible podcasts that may be of interest.
Understand the science of your child's developing mind to calm the chaos.
If your child is having a meltdown or throwing a tantrum in the supermarket, you'll do almost anything to make them stop—including turning into MeanParent™. But there's another way!
Dr. Tina Payne Bryson offers a different approach to discipline, free of threats and punishments, that is based on neuroscience. Understanding and nourishing your child's developing brain will not only help you survive the chaos, but also help them thrive - because their behavior is telling you loud and clear what skills they don't yet have.
Learn the cheat code to parenting in a pandemic with Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne-Bryson. We’re all struggling with some uncertainty and fear right now, and as a parent it can often be especially hard to know how to raise a child during the rise of Coronavirus. Join co-host Sue Marriott and expert guests Siegel and Payne-Bryson to unpack their new book The Power of Showing Up. In this episode they use interpersonal neurobiology to break down the science of attachment, and share what it means to show up. Applicable not just to those with children but in all relationships, their four legs of promoting secure attachment can change the way we relate to ourselves, and each other, for the better.
Emotionally and behaviorally challenged children can overwhelm any parent or system. In this episode, we’ll go over where many parents go wrong, what we can do instead, and how shifts in our strategies can revolutionize our households. Learn the strategies of the Nurtured Heart Approach with expert guest, Elizabeth Sylvester.
Dr. Elizabeth Sylvester joins co-host Dr. Ann Kelley as they unpack the 3 “stands” of the NHA approach for relationship-focused engagement with children and teens. We learn that with the right attunement, and a bit of practice, we can form new and deeper bonds with our children that result in long term behavioral and emotional changes.
“Regulate, then relate, then reason” -Dr. Bruce Perry
In this episode, co-host Sue Marriott speaks with Dr. Bruce Perry, a renowned neuroscientist, psychiatrist, clinician and researcher on children's mental health. They discuss staging intervention based on brain develop in a technique called the Neurosequential Model.
This episode explores the intersection of Polyvagal Theory, neuroscience, and attachment with Deb Dana. We will investigate how the mind creates stories from information relayed by the nervous system, and how we can rewrite the script to move toward security.
A comprehensive lecture on Self-Regulation by Dr. Stuart Shanker, one of the leading experts in the field.
Dr Stuart Shanker: Anxiety in Young Children and Practical Ways to Deal with It