DO YOU WORK MAINLY WITH COUPLES?
As a couples therapist trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), my work is largely focused on couples, but I also value working with individuals and parents. With almost 40 years of research on the science of attachment and bonding, EFT is a proven evidence-based model for couple (EFCT), individual (EFIT) and family therapy (EFFT). This empirically-proven model can help clients not only deescalate the negative patterns that have taken over their relationships, it can also help them build stronger bonds that will last.
HOW IS EFT DIFFERENT FROM COGNITIVE BEHAVIOURAL THERAPY (CBT)?
While EFT does address behaviour, this model dives deeper into how one has learned to adapt to stressors and cope with emotions. CBT is a top down cognitive approach to learn new strategies of change; this expectation of change created through insight can imply the expectation of 'shoulds.' The challenge is when the brain sees a right answer (shoulds) and also sees a threat, it will, out of survival instincts, register the threat and bypass the shoulds. "Story follows state." And when there is the expectation of 'should' but what is experienced is 'can't', internalized shame and resentment can creep in, which become underlying sources of anguish. EFT is an experiential model that unpacks the adaptive blocks (the 'good reasons') that hold us back, allowing a new healthier model of self to flourish in relationships. Secure relationships from an EFT attachment lens embody the three ideas of A.R.E.:
Accessible - "Can I reach for you?"
Responsive - "Can you catch me?"
Engaged - "ARE you there for me?"
HOW MANY SESSIONS DO WE NEED?
Goals of therapy and the number of sessions depend on the circumstances of each individual or couple. The focus is to not only find short-term resolution but to create lasting change to the long-term path of the relationship. The goals of therapy will always be collaboratively reevaluated throughout therapy.
WHAT ARE THE INITIAL STEPS TO START?
After contacting me and you feel like there is a good connection, I will email you an intake form for you to fill out separately. This form will have questions that will help me understand your needs better so we can begin our work.
DOES MY INSURANCE COVER THERAPY?
As a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC #3164) licensed by the BC Association of Clinical Counsellors (BCACC), most insurance companies recognize this designation. It is best for you to check with your service provider.
DO YOU OFFER ONLINE THERAPY?
Yes, I have shifted to online therapy since 2020, and the clients that I see now continue to prefer the convenience of connecting from home to accommodate work and family schedules. This has also allowed partners in long-distance relationships to seek out support. Telehealth has not affected therapy outcomes nor compromised the therapist-client relationship. Couples have shared that being at home has allowed them to feel safer to access their vulnerability -- to practice those missing conversations in the space where it's supposed to happen is a big advantage. Some evening and weekend times are available.